11 Winter Sex Positions That’ll Get You Through the Coldest Months
Two words: body heat.
Don’t let the cold weather fool you: Winter can be the hottest time of year to get it on. The chilly temperatures and cozy vibes make it an optimal time to get close, making your intimacy feel even steamier, more sizzling, and more passionate. And what better way to find inspiration for your next night in than with these winter sex positions?
“Wintertime sex is a fantastic opportunity to make the most of what you have, especially when it comes to reconnecting with your partner. The intimacy (and shared warmth) of snuggling up together and exploring touch and sensations can make sex even hotter,” says certified sex educator Cate Osborn, a full-time content creator with a special interest in neurodivergence and how it affects intimacy. “The long nights of the winter season mean plenty of time for romantic rendezvous, and there are plenty of great holiday traditions that you and your partner can share together.”
If one of your winter traditions is, unfortunately, getting the winter blues, having a bunch of truly stellar orgasms
can give you some helpful bonus doses of the feel-good chemicals oxytocin and dopamine—in case you needed more of a reason to get it on.
Below, some expert tips on how to heat up your sex life this winter.
1. Considering the drop in temperature, it’s a great time of year to experiment with none other than temperature play. You can slather each other with warm oil from a massage candle (get one specifically designed for massages—a regular candle will not work and can burn you!), try toys with built-in heating elements like heated vibrators, anal plugs and strokers, or heat or chill glass or stainless steel sex toys. And if you’re feeling especially temperature-curious, use heated toys with chilled lube or chilled toys with warming lube—your bedroom, your rules.
2. Make your space feel warm and cozy. “An electric heater can be the most important item for a sexy wintertime. For many people, if it’s not warm, it’s not going to happen!” says sex, pleasure, and intimacy coach Sarah Rose Bright, host of The Sexy Life podcast. Invest in a really soft, luxe blanket. “Get a king-sized comforter (no matter what the size of your bed is) so you have something large enough to cover you like a tent,” says Good Vibrations staff sexologist Carol Queen, PhD. (A weighted blanket to snuggle under post-sex is good too.)
3. Harness the sexual power of body heat. “We're hard-wired for connection, so increasing the opportunity for skin-to-skin contact in general is great,” says Megan Fleming, PhD, a Lovehoney sex expert.
Once you’ve prepped your space and gotten into a cozy-winter-sex mentality, warm up those long, dark nights with some of these winter sex positions. (Which you can and should feel empowered to use year-round!)
The Bear Hug
“You don't have to have a real roaring fire to capture some winter magic. Pull up a 'fireplace for your home' video from YouTube or Netflix for an instant cozy-cabin upgrade to your living room,” says Osborn. “Sprawl out on a few blankets, cuddle up together, and explore a few cuddle-heavy sex positions, like one of my favorites: The Bear Hug. It's warm, cuddly and great for creating warmth and comfort with your partner.” The receiving partner lies on their side in fetal position while holding onto a pillow or blanket for stability, while the penetrating partner gets on top and wraps them in a bear hug from behind.
The Winter Shower
“Sometimes the only place to get warm in the winter is in the shower, so crank up the heat and get steamy with a shared shower on a cold winter's night,” says Osborn. “Take time to explore their body- wash their hair, massage their scalp and down their neck and shoulders, and relax into each other as you wash away the day,” she says. "If you both want penetration to happen, try a waterproof cock ring. Bonus tip: Throw your towels in the dryer and have some hot cocoa waiting for maximum snuggly comfort after the deed is done.”
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The Naughty or Nice
“Sometimes you need to spice up the long winter nights with a little kinky action,” says Osborn. “Consider incorporating some light BDSM play with a blindfold and some inexpensive restraints into the action while you go down on your partner. You might be surprised at how much intensity a simple blindfold can add, whether you're giving or receiving.”
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The Secret Fort
“Build a bundle blanket fort in your living room or patio, and have sex in the fort wearing nothing but socks,” suggests
Luvbites podcast host Tara Suwinyattichaiporn, PhD, professor of Human Communication Studies at California State University, Fullerton. Add in some dual-warming clit or perineum toys, if you’re feeling it.
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The Warm and Wild
Is physical touch you or your partner’s love language? “Try giving your partner a tantric massage,” says Suwinyattichaiporn. “Massage allows you to connect with your partner and study their body. It’s winter, so get warm with a proper massage candle,” says Suwinyattichaiporn. End the massage with a lubey handjob.
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The Slow Globe
“Try having sex in a parked car while it's snowing,” suggests Suwinyattichaiporn. Have your partner sit in the backseat while you straddle them so you can both enjoy the view of each other, and the snow blanketing the outside world. It’ll be like your own private snow globe.
Baby, It's Cold (or Warm) Inside
“Experimenting with toys that add a component of temperature play can be a lot of fun,” says Fleming, recommending stainless steel sex toys that can be cooled or heated for internal stimulation or perineum play. (Glass works too.) Cooling or heating a toy (not too much though!) intensifies sensations so you're super aware of what's happening. Put a toy on ice or dip it in warm water beforehand. You can glide the toy over your partner's body to tease them or use it vaginally or anally.
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A Spoon For All Seasons
Sleeping naked can feel great, and it can be a great opportunity to get closer. “The opportunity of bodies rubbing together in the night can lead into one of my favorites, the spoon position,” says Fleming. “It's completely easy and there's no physical exertion. It works if you're tired, or just waking up, or finding each other in the middle of the night.” Wrap yourselves in a soft fluffy blanket to make it even more cozy and intimate.
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Winterized Woman on Top
“Lean down toward your partner during woman-on-top so you're getting more skin-to-skin contact,” says Fleming. If you want to combine skin-to-skin and temperature play elements (multitasking!), warm some lube and tease your partner by sliding your slippery breasts against their chest. Or start with a long massage using the warm oil from a massage candle.
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Winter CAT
Maximize contact and the chance of having an orgasm during P-in-V with the coital alignment technique, which is way sexier than its name. The penetrating partner is on top, like in missionary, but shifts upward so their pelvic bone is pressing against the receiver's clit. “The idea is that it's more rocking and rubbing so there's more friction with your bodies pressed up against each other,” says Fleming. Incorporate a toy for maximum pleasure.
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Lotus Love
A sitting position like Lotus, aka Yab Yum, is good for closeness and lots of eye contact, plus it's great if you don't like to feel fully exposed during sex. “Face-to-face positions have more eye contact,” says Fleming. “Find the conditions that help you relax.”
Jill Hamilton is a contributor for Cosmopolitan.com and writes the blog In Bed With Married Women.
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