6 Hot Chair Sex Positions to Try Tonight
Your corner chair just became your new best friend.
If your sex life is in need of a little something extra, take another look at that chair sitting all innocently in the corner of your living room. Chair sex positions allow for lots of skin-to-skin contact and can feel surprisingly intimate. “Chair sex is perfect for more body contact and wandering hands,” says Jess O’Reilly, PhD, resident sexologist at Astroglide. “You can also play with deep kissing and eye gazing for added intensity and/or intimacy.”
Chair sex also gives you way more control over how deep the penetration is—crucial if you want (or need!) sex to be gentle to enjoy it. “If you prefer a shallower depth, straddle them and lower yourself as you squat to a depth that feels most pleasurable. If you prefer it deeper, simply sit right on their lap and allow yourself to grind, roll and rock when you reach the base of their penis/strap-on,” says O’Reilly.
So how do you pick the lucky chair? Consider factors like height, sturdiness, and what you want the chair to do. “A regular dining chair can be great for riding and straddling a partner. A high-top stool or chair may be perfect for standing oral with the receiving partner seated,” says O’Reilly. (Here are 19 chairs to have sex on, ranked. You’re welcome.)
And don’t forget to assess cleanability! “Upholstery is not sexy to clean, and you probably don't want suspicious stains hanging around in your living room,” says Tara Struyk, co-founder and editor-in-chief of Kinkly. Invest in a washable sex blanket that’s absorbent and waterproof like a Liberator Fascinator Throw or have regular old blankets do the job.
Below, six ways to have incredible sex—while remaining fully seated.
The Easy Chair
The most basic chair sex position: one person sits on a chair, the other faces them and straddles their lap. If you’re going for penetration, lower yourself onto the penetrating partner’s penis or dildo and move as you please, a la cowgirl position. “You can control how slow or fast you want to go. It’s also perfect for couples who want more kissing, cuddling, and some butt and breast play,” says Aliyah Moore, PhD, resident certified sex therapist at SexualAlpha.
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Experiment with light bondage, incorporating props to make it even hotter. “A chair with arms is perfectly designed for tying down your wrists. You can also tie them down at their ankles or use a blindfold to tease and build anticipation. Use silk scarves, neckties or a bondage kit,” says O’Reilly. Teasing with a toy or mouth makes it even hotter.
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One person sits while the other person backs that ass up, taking a seat on their partner’s penis/strap-on. It works for anal or vaginal sex and both partners’ hands are free for rubbing, touching and holding toys. “Vibrator highly recommended!” says Struyk. Try a vibrating cock ring that’s both penis and clit pleasin’.
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The Dog Chair
A chair gives you a soft perching spot for a modified doggy. “If the chair has a large enough seat bed, the receiver can kneel on the chair while the giver penetrates from behind,” says Nicole Moore, a love and relationships coach. If you want to up the stimulation, straddle the arm (sturdy, upholstered chair only) with a vibe propped between you and the arm. The giver can kneel, crouch or stand with their hands on the chair for leverage.
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The All Hail the Queen
Chairs are also great for oral sex, aka queening. One person (say, you) sits down with their legs spread a little. “Have your giving partner kneel down and serve you with pleasure using their mouths, hands, a sex toy like a bullet vibrator or dildo, or all of the above,” says Aliyah. “I usually recommend a sex position enhancer chair with a cushioned, holed seat for easy access, or a simple but quality queening stool for couples on a budget.”
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The Couch and Grind
“For y’all independent queens, you can use your couch for some solo play action,” says Aliyah. “Put a waterproof throw blanket or sheet on the arm of your choice of couch or chair. Begin with gentle and small movements so you can stimulate your clit with consistent pressure. Then, as the intensity builds up, add more movements and put more pressure on your clit. If steady pressure and movements aren’t enough to get you off, try adding your fave bullet vibe.” Use a soft upholstered chair for this one unless you’re into the BDSM-y aspect of a hard wooden arm.
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Jill Hamilton is a contributor for Cosmopolitan.com and writes the blog In Bed With Married Women.
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