Astrology can help us understand more about ourselves and the people we love/date/hopelessly crush on—no matter their gender. For more deets on Sagittarius compatibility, check out our guide to dating a Sagittarius woman and our gender-neutral guide to dating a Sagittarius.
There are just a few basics that need to be explored when you first start dating someone. Where is he from? What does he do for a living? Oh, and most definitely, when’s his birthday? This isn’t just for remembering when to send that “happy b-day :)” text! Knowing a potential boo’s zodiac sign can really help in understanding his behavior. Astrology helps us break down personality traits, pet peeves, and, yes, even dating patterns. It can be fun and informative to look up his sign and see how yours works with his (aka compatibility).
If you’re dating, Insta sleuthing (hi, guilty), or just fantasizing over a Sagittarius man, we’re here to help you navigate this passionate fire sign. These adventurous archers are optimistic and outspoken and famously love their freedom. Here’s what you’ve gotta know about them.
Luckily, astrology allows us to decipher personality traits, pet peeves, and so much more. And trust me when I say there is sooo much more to a Sagittarius man than you initially realized. You think they're all fun and adventurous, and they are, but they're so much more than that, too.
So if your guy was born between November 22 and December 21, you’re in for a treat. Sagittarians make life (and sex) feel incredible, but as it goes with any sign, there are some things you may want to keep an eye out for.
The Sagittarius Basics
Birthday: November 22 to December 21
Ruling planet: Jupiter
Represented by: The archer
Tarot card: Temperance
Best crystals: Lapis lazuli, black tourmaline, rose quartz, carnelian, malachite
Keywords: Carefree, optimistic, blunt, active, adventurous, lucky, free, noncommittal, curious, philosophical, outspoken, impulsive
Best traits: Adventurous, optimistic, passionate, outspoken
Worst traits: Noncommittal, flaky, blunt, careless
Love anthem: “Run Away With Me,” by Carly Rae Jepsen
Famous Sagittarius men: Brad Pitt, Jay-Z, Jake Gyllenhaal, Charlie Puth, Trey Songz, Jon Stewart, Jay-Z, DJ Khaled, Jamie Foxx, Ben Stiller, Steven Yeun, Don Cheadle, Jonah Hill, Nat Wolff, Ian Somerhalder, Brad Pitt, Mark Ruffalo, Nat Wolff, Samuel L. Jackson, Charlie Puth, Lil Baby, Jin, Offset
A Sagittarius Man's Best Traits
"Sagittarius" is basically synonymous with "adventurous" at this point, and while there's a lot more to a Sag than that, it's also true! Your Sagittarius lover will suggest tons of day trips and long weekends away, and trust, he'll have plenty of ideas for how to use your PTO. And Sagittarius isn't just physically adventurous, but mentally as well. He's well-read, deeply curious, and always up for trying something new...including in the bedroom.
A Sagittarius Man's Worst Traits
No other zodiac sign puts their foot in their mouth like Sagittarius. It's not that these archers are ill-intentioned, they just tend to speak before they really think things through, and they lack a little tact. If you're on the sensitive side, it's easy to get your feelings hurt by a Sagittarius. This sign is also stereotyped as noncommittal, and while that's not completely true—Sags will commit to someone or something they think is really worth it—this sign prefers to be spontaneous rather than plan dates and life milestones in advance.
The Best Matches for a Sagittarius Man
When it comes to this sign, another Sagittarius is the best choice for a partner! You are both unapologetically up-front and can dish out the tea as well as you can take it from others, so arguments are quick and then forgotten about. Another great match for Sagittarius is Aquarius. Both of you have unique perspectives on the world that are completely your own, which you both love to have friendly debates over. Sag also clicks with air sign Libra—Libra's witty banter and playful attitude keep Sag inteested.
Obvi, Sagittarius vibes with fellow fire signs Aries and Leo. You’re all so outspoken and passionate that you just get along…until you don’t. Luckily, if you fight, you make up easily, and LBR, you love a little bit of ~drama~. Finally, Gemini gives Sagittarius an opposites-attract situation. (Literally, they’re opposites on the zodiac.) They’re both super smart and super curious, and sparks just fly!
The Worst Matches for a Sagittarius Man
Sagittarius might struggle to get along with Virgo. Sag is so adventurous that Virgo thinks he's reckless, while Sag gets annoyed with Virgo's tendency to hyper-focus on the details. Pisces also presents some challenges. This water sign wants to be super-close both physically and emotionally, while Sagittarius loves their freedom and impulsive solo getaways. Homebody Taurus can also struggle to connect with adventurous Sagittarius's lifestyle.
That said, having incompatible Sun signs doesn't mean your relationship is doomed—it just means you might have to put in a little work to really ~get~ each other. And compatibility is about so much more than your Sun sign anyway, so if your Moon signs or another part of your birth charts mesh well, you might be an astrologically blessed match anyway.
But even if your birth chart is Virgo all the way down, if you make an effort to understand your Sagittarius boo—and vice versa—you can have a great relationship too. And TBH, ~astrological tension~ can also lead to ~sexual tension~, so there's something to be said for "incompatibility"!
Sex With a Sagittarius Man
Sagittarius was voted most likely to join the mile-high club. These travel-loving, spontaneous Sags are ready to go whenever, wherever. They also just miiight have a bit of an exhibitionist streak. They love sex in public. Or semi public. Or outdoors. Or at least, they don’t mind if the neighbors hear. For Sagittariuses, the ideal sex session is fun, hot, and playful—slow, emotional bonding just isn’t their thing.
Sags love variety, so they're almost always down to try a new sex position, kink, or toy. They're not afraid to make a suggestion or make the first move, but they love it when you take initiative and are direct about what you want.
The Perfect First Date With a Sagittarius Man
Dinner and drinks is too boring for a Sag. Choose something that appeals to their sense of adventure or their philosophical mind: A hike, an axe-throwing bar, a modern art exhibit. Or alternately, level-up the traditional dinner and drinks: Take them to a food festival so they can try snacks from tons of different cuisines, or sign up for a cocktail making class together. Enjoy!
A Relationship with a Sagittarius Man
Sag might take a while to be ready to DTR, but once you're in, you're in. Hopefully you can keep up with your jet-setting sweetie, because he's always traveling, bouncing from hobby to hobby, and living life at 110%. Ultimately, Sag just wants someone who can keep up with him!
A Sagittarius Man in Love
What's more romantic than plane tickets for a last-minute weekend vacay? Sag shows his love by inviting you to join him on the things he's passionate about. And he'll be equally curious about your passions, too. So don't be afraid to show him what you're into—odds are he'll be just as obsessed.
A Sagittarius Man at Home
Expect to see souvenirs from Sag's travels and relics of past hobbies scattered around their home. In fact, their place might look kinda like a lived-in, well-loved museum...one with plenty of comfy furniture and blankets. They also likely have an extensive book, DVD, or vinyl collection to keep their curious mind happy.
A Sagittarius Man at the Office
Sagittarius is definitely an ideas person, but they're way more about the big picture than they are about the details. They shine in brainstorming sessions, but for true success, they'll need to partner with a more meticulous sign like Virgo. Sag is also the life of the party at the office. They have a ton of casual work friends and are no stranger to after-work happy hours.
A Sagittarius Man with Friends
As a fire sign, Sag likely has a wide range of casual friends rather than a tight circle of besties. He can befriend people from different cultures, in different countries, and who speak different languages. Don't be surprised if your couple life involves jetting off to Japan for his college bestie's wedding or planning a vacay in Kenya so he can visit the friend he met in Argentina ten years ago.
A Gift for a Sagittarius Man
You know how some people prefer ~experiences~ to ~physical things~? Yeah, that's Sag. Surprise him with a weekend trip, a cocktail-making class, or concert tickets. If you prefer to get him something he can hold, give him something that will help out with his hobby of choice, like new headphones so he can listen to his favorite band or a new suitcase so he can travel in style.
All About Sagittarius Men
Love is always an adventure when it comes to Sagittarius men. This feisty fire sign is classified as mutable, meaning he’s creative, expressive, adventurous, resourceful, and always on the go. His sign is ruled by Jupiter, planet of abundance and expansion, and he wants to be completely unrestricted so he can honor his ruling planet’s themes of growth and broaden his horizons. He does this by traveling and engaging with a ton of different people. This upbeat guy is a present-day Indiana Jones—educated, a bit of a troublemaker, and totally irresistible, if you’re down for the ride.
The Sagittarius man is optimistic above all else. He sees every moment as an opportunity to learn something new or to help someone or to improve at a skill. Every goal he makes is lofty and ambitious, and every obstacle he faces is just a chance to improve. His constantly hopeful mindset is something to be admired, and he views you through that same idealistic lens. He sees the best in people very easily, and he only seriously connects with those he thinks have potential. In a lot of ways, he’s like a coach. He’ll push your buttons sometimes, but at the end of the day, he wants nothing more than for you to be the best version of yourself.
Just like the Sagittarius constellation—the centaur—he’s always on the move! He’ll motivate you to work out with him and he prefers long walks together over sitting at a bar. He hates to be bored, and in the rare times when you two have no plans, he immediately has an idea for an outing or adventure. It’s hardly ever something as simple as catching a movie or getting dinner at a nice restaurant—he wants to go on a hike or take a couples art class—anything that is mentally stimulating and provides an opportunity to try something new. Don’t be surprised if he suggests a weekend getaway for your third date. And not a relaxing getaway. Skydiving might be involved.
With a Sagittarius guy, what you see is what you get. He’s no good at keeping secrets—as soon as something pops into his mind, it immediately comes out of his mouth. Is he tactless? Sure, at times. But you know that with this guy, you’ll only get the real truth tea. It’s an interesting way that he honors his ruling planet. Jupiter is all about unrestricted growth and expansion, and his straightforwardness is a result of him wanting the relationship to evolve. Other signs might be more passive-aggressive, but you can rest assured that if you’re with a Sagittarius, he will mince no words!
However, his words can hurt, especially if he makes you feel clingy just for having basic relationship needs. Yeah, he’s going to leave you on read sometimes. After all, his sign gets a reputation for being unable to commit—he takes a great amount of convincing before he even starts to entertain the idea of settling down. He might view you as his ball and chain if he thinks you’re restricting him in any way. He wants nothing more than the freedom to explore and to experience everything life has to offer (in return, he grants you that same autonomy). But he also needs to be continually fascinated by you. If you can’t keep him intrigued and keep up with his fast-paced movement through life, good luck!
On the other hand, if he does want to make things official, you know that he’s absolutely one hundred percent into you. Unlike certain signs (looking at you, Libra), Sagittarians won’t be in a relationship just to have someone to be their plus-one. They don’t need a relationship to feel fulfilled—so when they finally choose to be in one, it’s because they want the other person to join them on their adventure.
Being ruled by Jupiter, planet of expansion, this sign is exaggerative by nature in everything he does. One tiny misstep on your end turns into an argument, and his natural loudness really shines when he’s in a disagreement with someone! He identifies very strongly with his beliefs and opinions, to the point of where a simple argument feels like a personal attack on him. Best strategy to deal with this craziness? Shrug it off. Don’t bother over little tiffs—just roll your eyes and move on. He won’t remember them in five minutes, and neither should you. His sign gets heated the quickest, but he’s also the sign that’s fastest to forgive and forget.
Again, the simplest way to make it all work with him is to give him some breathing room. He’s a fire sign, so he’s terrified of his natural spark being smothered. If you’re looking for a nightly Netflix and chill buddy, you might not be a perfect match for a Sagittarius boy. There’s a need for freedom in everything he does, including his schedule, so don’t expect important dates or plans to be set in stone. Appreciate the impromptu lifestyle he lives, where you can enjoy every date as a surprise, and every moment spent together will feel like an adventure.
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Jake Register (better known by his Instagram handle, @jakesastrology) is a Libra and the author of Cosmopolitan’s weekly Sexoscopes. He lives in southeastern North Carolina and loves making astrology content. Follow his IG or Twitter @jakesastrology, and to book a reading, go to Jakesastrology.as.me.
Erika W Smith (she/her) is the current Senior Astrology Editor at Cosmopolitan. In her 2+ years at Cosmo, she's worked on everything from editing weekly horoscopes, to reporting on how astrology influences album release dates, to launching The Cosmo Tarot. Before joining Cosmopolitan in 2020, she was a writer and/or editor for Refinery29, HelloGiggles, and BUST magazine. Her book Astrosex: How to Have the Best Sex According to Your Star Sign was published in 2021. Follow her on Twitter and Instagram @erikawynn.